I have been thinking about this topic for a while now and have come to some conclusions.
I know that there are many who are working hard to leave their children some kind of a legacy.
The question is what kind of legacy are we leaving our children?
Of course, as good parents, there are good things that we want to leave with our children that will last long after we are gone.
But the flip side of that is that we are also leaving a bad legacy too.
As we pass on good things to our children like character, virtues, and integrity. It’s so important that we pay attention to the things we don’t necessarily intend to pass on like a critical spirit, greed, or selfishness.
I don’t care if I leave my children an inheritance of property, cash, or other things.
It is my desire to leave them a legacy of Love.
I have learned that the old saying “Do as I say not as I do” does NOT work.
Our children grow up learning from both what we say and what we do.
So many times the very things that I see in my kids that I don’t like turn out to be a mirror image of something in me that I want to overlook.
It’s easy to go through life pretending that you aren’t critical, greedy, or selfish. Just fill your life with a lot of the opposite and those things will vanish into the background….right?
Not when you have kids.
The things you try to hide away or ignore will show up in such an obvious way in your kids that you can’t overlook them.
We have a choice to face those things head-on and admit to our responsibility in them. Or we can try to cover them up, as we did when they were rising up in ourselves by ignoring, justifying, or making excuses for them.
I hope to be the kind of parent that will face these things head-on in an honest and humble way.
In a way that my kids will see that when faced with the ugliness of our own sin we have two choices to face them head-on or hide them away.
It is my hope that I will choose the first way quickly and more often.